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Identity
Looking at identity? Start with a colour.
Who you are. Who you love. How you love. Your energy. Your place in the room. The record. Every public code, sorted by the question it answers — and a quiz that asks how you move through a room, not who you sleep with.
Take the five-question quiz Browse by colour
Who you are30 codes · Gender — thirty colours for how you sit in your own skin.
Who you love5 codes · Orientation — gay, lesbian, queer, genderqueer, questioning.
How you love5 codes · Relationship shapes — monogamous, anarchist, triad, polycule, solo.
Your energy9 codes · Warrior, trickster, brat, switch, service — and the consent codes that hold them.
Your place in the room24 codes · Leader, elder, archivist, organiser, activist, newcomer — the community roles.
The record16 codes · The 1970s and 80s colours that can be shown to anyone — as they were worn.
The inner room13 codes · HankyCode Originals about the mind — obsession, ego, oracle, shapeshifter.
The upload14 codes · The tech codes — startup, open source, neural net, synthetic.
The velvet rope21 codes · Money, status and access — kingmaker to Swiss bank.
Play18 codes · The contemporary play codes — soft dom/sub, rope, sensation, aftercare.
If you are working it out
I think I’m queer. What now? Start with a colour, not a labelIf you have started to wonder whether the word queer fits you, you do not need an answer today. Here is a way to look at it that people have used for fifty years: a colour, a pocket, and a word you can hold for a minute.Questioning your identity? A colour to hold while you work it outSeeking your identity is not a problem to solve. It is a room to stand in for a while. The hanky code gives you something to hold in that room: a colour, a side, a word — and 152 neighbours to try next.Looking at identity through 152 colours: a visual guide to the HankyCodeIdentity is hard to say and easy to see. This is the whole public code laid out by colour family and by cluster — who you are, who you love, how you love, your energy, your place in the room — with the fifty-year history under each one.
If you want a person, not a printThe Support page lists people who listen for free and keep it to themselves — Switchboard LGBT+, The Proud Trust, akt, Childline, Mermaids. If you are in immediate danger, call 999.